Dutch designer Mark Sturkenboom has created a sex toy that includes a mini-urn that holds the cremated remains of your dearly departed.

The erotically-shaped urn is part of “21 Grams,” a memory box devised by Sturkenboom to help grieving people feel the presence of their loved ones.

Besides the death-oriented dildo, Sturkenboom’s memory boxes come with a perfume diffuser that can hold the departed’s signature scent, and an iPod amplifier so the bereaved can play songs that remind them of the deceased, Dezeen.com reports.

The box can also hold other keepsakes related to the dead loved one, and comes with a brass key that can be worn as a pendant, Yahoo! News reports.

Sturkenboom said an elderly neighbor inspired him to create the memory box.

“I sometimes help an elderly lady with her groceries and she has an urn standing near the window with the remains of her husband,” he said, according to the Metro. “She always speaks with so much love about him but the jar he was in didn’t reflect that at all.

“In that same period I read an article about widows, taboos and sex and intimacy and then I thought to myself ‘Can I combine these themes and make an object that is about love and missing and intimacy?’

(via HuffPo)