We know him, we love him, we trust him with most of our secrets. So why not, we thought, get Joey Maiocco to share his youthful wisdom in an advice column on the WOW Report. This is the guy who saw battle in Afghanistan, after all, so he eats does-my-boyfriend-really-love-me for breakfast. We start with a letter from a girl in Las Vegas, but we invite you to send your very special, unique, and heartbreaking relationship problems for Joey’s analysis to [email protected].
I’m having trouble with my mom and we have been fighting a lot lately. I feel like she’s trying to make me be like my older sister. My mom always had my sister on a pedestal, but all the pressure was really getting to my sister and she got into drugs. They had a big fight and now hardly even speak to each other. I don’t want to end up like my sister or disappoint my mom, but she’s putting all the pressure on me now to be perfect and great. I’m not sure what I should do.
Venting in Vegas
Parents have a way of projecting themselves onto their next of kin, and this seems like an all-too-real example of that. Your sister couldn’t handle the pressure your mother was putting on her, so her escape was drugs. Now it’s your turn. I think the only thing you can do is just be honest. Let your mother know that if she doesn’t want to fail as a parent twice, she should back the fuck up.
I can picture your mother: Pretty (20 years ago), sun-bleached, and driving a ridiculous car that is way out of her price range just to keep up the facade that everything is A-OK in Graceland. You need to sit her down and show her point blank that history is about to repeat itself. She already ruined her relationship with your sister, and now the tides are turning to you. AND if she doesn’t get that, I think the courts can help you emancipate yourself from her.
I hope this helps. Don’t go the way of the dark side, meth mouth is gross.