75 year-old Maryann Durmer wrote a moving personal note for the Huffington Post thanking Elliot Page for coming out.
Durmer is self-described as a
“white, heterosexual cisgender woman who was raised in an authoritarian home”
In the piece, Durmer says she is “grateful” that Elliot Page came out thanking him for
“using your fame and visibility to help other people”.
Durmer’s piece was published on Christmas Day, five months after her 22-year-old granddaughter came out as trans.
“Elliot Page recently announced that he is transgender, and as the grandmother of a transgender young woman, I am grateful that he did.
“When I heard the news. I texted her: ‘I talked to your dad last night. I’m so happy you came out, and I support you 100 per cent. I just wanted to stop by and tell you I love you. If there’s anything I can do to help you, I’m here.’”
“Like many others, I realized that organized religion messed me up and that I needed to rethink my biases and understanding of sexuality and gender.”
“Maybe, in some cases, understanding a transgender person is easier for a non-family member. There are no emotional bonds and no history with that person to look back on and reminisce about.
“But when it’s your grandchild who is transgender, it’s complicated. I worry that I may do or say something wrong by accident.
Saying a new name after knowing a person for 20-plus years isn’t easy. It’s not just about my granddaughter changing. It’s also that I have no ‘how-to’ manual for processing my memories of my former grandson.
“All I know is that I love my granddaughter.”
Durmer researched gender-affirming healthcare, issues that trans and non-binary people face, and watched films and read books to better understand her granddaughter’s experience.
Love is love. You can read the full essay here.
(via Pink News)