Panic! at the Disco’s yummy Brendon Urie sat down with PAPER for a freewheeling conversation that touched on the #MeToo movement, his thoughts on politics, religion, and Aziz Ansari (?). But it’s when he spoke about his sexuality that things got REALLY INTERESTING.

PAPER: You don’t buy into the old masculinity tropes.

BRENDON: No. I’m married to a woman and I’m very much in love with her but I’m not opposed to a man because to me, I like a person. Yeah I guess you could qualify me as pansexual because I really don’t care. If a person is great, then a person is great. I just like good people, if your heart’s in the right place. I’m definitely attracted to men. It’s just people that I am attracted to.

So you’re pansexual.

I guess so, I guess this is me coming out as pansexual.

Did you find yourself as a young man having to really come to terms with your sexuality?

It was never weird for me. I know that it made a few people uncomfortable, when somebody gets uncomfortable about me doing what I used to call “stage gay.” It kind of presses me to want to do it more.

What’s “stage gay”?

For our first headline tour I would go up to Ryan our guitar player, and like kiss him on the neck or kiss him on the mouth and he would be so mad. I was like, I just want to kiss you bro. I would hang out with friends and after five or six beers we’re just kind of like smooching on each other. People just get hammered and fool around.