Wowlebrity and pansexual Menendez: Blood Bothers star Nico Tortorella talks to The Advocate about his sexual attraction to both men and women:

“I think the way I use the word fluidity is like fluid in everything, fluid in train of thought,” Nico explains. “It doesn’t always have to be one thing. The one thing anybody can talk about, no matter race, religion, sexuality or gender, is love.”

“I can be emotionally, physically attracted to men. I can be emotionally, physically attracted to women.”

Nico then brings up his 11 year polyamorous relationship with Bethany Meyers, a fitness and lifestyle entrepreneur, who identifies as gay.

“We’re family,” he says, though they shrink away from “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” labels.

Bethany adds, “I think we’re raised with this idea that you’re supposed to go and find ‘the one,’ especially women. You’re looking for your Prince Charming. You need to be proposed to. There’s this one person you’re searching to find, so the idea of finding a stability partner, and having other things on top of that, feels too messy.”

As for sex, Nico basically says that’s no one’s business but their own.

“We need to get our head out of that place,” he says. “I really think that that’s the biggest harm that we have done. Even the word ‘sexuality.’ What’s your ‘sexuality?’ It shouldn’t even be about sex. Sex is a by-product.”

(via Queerty)