Men vs Women
I was watching American Justice last week (yes, I do watch something other than reality shows), and it was about women in the criminal justice system. It started off with the familiar tale of Lorena Bobbitt, the chick who cut off her husband’s penis and then threw it out the window of her car. Now, both people were obviously extremely trashy, for lack of a better word. He claimed she was a lying sex fiend who cut off his thingy because he couldn’t get it up; after they sewed it back on, he starred in some great porn films. Meanwhile, she said he beat her all the time and raped her; she later moved back to South America and sold her story for a substantial sum. Two different sides to one story and both people were acquitted and set free.
The program also talked about Aileen Wournos – the gal the movie Monster was based on – and how rare it is to have a female serial killer. It also touched on battered woman’s syndrome. When the show finished, my cluttered mind began to focus on all the times that men and women react differently to different circumstances and how different they are treated in society. I decided that it would be a cool topic to hear reactions about, so here we go:
Hilary Clinton is thinking about running for president in the coming election. Here are the reasons why she won’t win. 1) She’s a woman. OK, so that pretty much sums up the reasons why. Now that I have your attention, if this sounds sexist or chauvinistic to you, I can assure you that is not my intention. I will definitely vote for Mrs Clinton, and I will in fact actually encourage others to vote for her. However, in our society where women still make around 73¢ to every dollar a man makes, we have almost trained women not to support each other; therefore, women will not vote for her. Don’t believe me? PROVE ME WRONG! Show me that it’s time for a woman to be in charge.
Women have a hard time socializing with each other. You never hear a woman say “Oh, I’m a real woman’s woman.” Most girls I know say they get along better with guys than they do with girls. Society has put women in competition, and I think it’s hard to rally around each other for support. I credit women with being smarter than men. They are more intuitive, more understanding, more compassionate, more forgiving for the most part, and there are more women than men in the United States, so one would think that they would be in control of everything. Yet Madeline Albright and Condeleezza Rice are the highest-ranked women ever in American government. That’s kinda sad. For a different perspective, look at the shows Survivor and Big Brother. Women have won just as many times as men, BUT they USUALLY only win if they are up against another woman.
If a woman cheats on a man with a stranger, most men would react by being upset at his girlfriend who actually has some sort of commitment to him. If a man cheats on his woman, however, most women would blame the other woman and hate her forever. A lot of times they would even forgive their boyfriends, but the other women would never ever be given a second chance. Why is that? I would be upset with both people, sure, but the person who should have been faithful to me would be the person who I would hold most accountable.
Men handle conflicts with much less tact than women and are much more critical of people than women are, in general. For example, watch at the end of this blog what happens. The women will rationally disagree with me, if they feel I have said something incorrect and will encourage me with words of support, which may arise from some sort of maternal instinct. The men will have to say something funny that may or may not have anything to do with what I have written, and will perpetuate some sort of critical banter whether it’s called for or not. Not just on this blog, but in most of my encounters in law school and other areas of corporate business, women express their opinions with more sincerity, more succinctly, and with less judgment and less need to be correct. Men begin to fight a battle when they start an argument. Most times, guys will ramble on about their own thoughts and actually forget what they are arguing about while trying to prove a point. Often at the end of an argument, I will realize that I have spent precious time and energy trying to say the exact same thing that my opponent was saying; I just hadn’t been listening to what he said because I was so wrapped up in my own argument. As men, we feel the need to be right at any cost. Women are typically less petty (unless it comes to each other, lol) and listen to arguments before adding an opinion.
The justice system allows breaks for women who commit serious crimes because they assume there must have been something that pushed them to act as they did – and that theory may be true. The corporate world rewards men more for jobs well done. But how do we as a society keep the differences between the sexes to a level where both sides are being treated equally? BLOG HARD!
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