AA Is For Quitters
OK I’m gonna get in a lot of trouble for this entry but, hey, probably not a lot of people read it, and the ones who do will forget about it by next week. So here it goes. Lance Bass is gay. No, don’t freak out! Seven people in Boise, Idaho, cried in surprise. They were the same seven people who were surprised that Martina Navratolova was gay. Anyone who didn’t know already was either in extreme denial or headless. And my favorite thing is that his group ‘NSync is very supportive. Like they wouldn’t be. In honor of the “courageous” Lance Bass and his brave bandmates I’ve decided to write about group mentality.
My favorite phrase of the Bible (at least I think it was the Bible) is “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” God says some pretty profound shit, huh? Well, recently, a friend of mine joined a group that was supposed to be dedicated to focusing energy and reaching one’s full potential or some such shit. Basically, it’s an AA meeting for people who don’t drink but need to feel like they belong to a group. I think. Well I have never been one who understood religion or self-meditation or introspective behavior in a group setting but, hey, whatever gets you through the day sounds good to me. BUT now my friend is a total wacko because she feels like she’s focusing her life.
I’m reminded of a time in college when I went to an AA meeting and realised how scary being part of a group dedicated to fixing people really could be. Junior year, my flag football team needed to win one more game to make the national championships. I had broken my arm early in the season, was unable to play, and our star quarterback had been arrested for DUI and had to attend mandatory AA meetings and was not going to be able to make the game. My brilliant college mind came up with a plan. I would go to the AA meeting for him so he could play. SMART! The big problems were a) I couldn’t drive a car because of my arm and b) I had been drinking beer all day with my friends. I asked this chic Bonnie to go with me and the two of us, drunk as shit, took a cab to the meeting. I sat there for two hours listening to the most pathetic stories of how people had lost their jobs and families and, apparently, their fashion sense (most of them looked like extras form that horrible movie North Country. It was so grueling to listen to, and I couldn’t believe that some people had to do this three or four times a week forever, just to deal with not drinking. After the show… um, I mean the meeting, I had to check in as my friend, at which time the leader of the meeting said to me, “Brett (he thought I was my friend, duh), I think that if these meetings are gonna help you, you really need to come to them sober.” Well, I was mortified to say the least and when I left I actually felt like I was the one with a problem.
I don’t drink now because I don’t think it tastes good, but it was always funny to me that people would take themselves to a place that looked so down on a behavior simply to avoid doing the behavior, and then they became obsessed with the meetings which almost seem to take the place of the problem. Think Jim Jones and Kool-Aid.
People say that drug addition is a disease, or that obsessive-compulsive behavior is a disease, or that promiscuity is a disease. Couldn’t it be said then that obsessively going to meetings or constantly talking about your problems is also a disease? I have some friends, well, acquaintances who I know go to AA or MA or GA or some sorta A and they become so obsessed with the meetings that they forget why they went in the first place. Most of the time I’d rather they were just drunk than have to talk about how hard it is to be sober all the time. I mean if you start the behavior and then you have to stop it, wouldn’t it be easier just to stop talking about it too? But back to my point. My friend is so wrapped up in improving her life with these courses, that I think she has forgotten how to live it. ‘NSync is so wrapped up in supporting their gay member (pun intended) that they forget no one gives a shit. So I guess I am judging those who can’t figure out how to fix the things they want to fix in their lives without becoming obsessed with a group mentality leading the way. I’m not following the Bible proverb… but then again, I ain’t in the Bible. BLOG HARD!
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– Dylan Vox