In the new Love issue of Out Magazine, editor Aaron Hicklin interviews Olympian Gus Kenworthy and his new beau, actor Matt Wilkas on how hey met…
Kenworthy: I’d written him a message on Instagram while Robin and I were on a break — I’d seen Matt in the movie Gayby, and he’d popped up on my Instagram with these videos he makes, and I watched a few of them — he used to do these ones with a silly chick who wiggles when the sun hits her, and I thought they were really funny. I followed him, he followed me back, and I wrote him this really long message on Instagram. I said,
“Hey, I think you’re really funny, and you seem really sweet, and I’ve been enjoying following you on Instagram, and actually I’m in the closet right now, and I’m coming to New York in a couple of weeks if you want to get a coffee or something.”
He got back to me to say that he’d love to get a coffee. We did not get a coffee — I texted him the last day I was in New York, and it didn’t work out, and I thought that it was probably for the better.
Wilkas: A year later, when Gus reached out again for a drink, I thought, OK, I’ll do it. Look at his picture — he’s adorable. Why not do this? But I was very nervous and insecure — he was much younger than me, and then I found out we were going to dinner on his birthday. He was on a trip with his mom and friends.
After they had been seeing each other for a while…
Kenworthy: I was visiting him in Connecticut just before Christmas, and we were lying on the couch watching TV, and I could feel his heart beating and sensed his energy, and he turned to me and said, “I want to tell you something, but I’m scared,” and I just totally hijacked it and said, “I love you.” And then he said it back, and he was crying, and I was crying. It was really sweet.
Wilkas: For me, being apart a lot of the time is a good thing, but I don’t think Gus feels that way. He doesn’t really want a long-distance relationship. I don’t either but think time apart is valuable and can work. We’re currently in the longest stint of time apart and that is challenging — there has to be some understanding of what the limit of our time apart should and should not be.
Kenworthy: All relationships take work, and we’ve definitely begun to realize that. I’m traveling and skiing and training and competing. He lives in New York — he can’t really live in Denver. Also, I was in a relationship from 18 to 23, and I still haven’t really experienced that much sexually. I wouldn’t want to ever sacrifice my relationship with Matt just to go out and get that out of my system, but we’ve also talked about that and he doesn’t want to deprive me of experiencing anything while I’m still young. I don’t necessarily know what that means. We’re not in an open relationship and we’re not breaking up. But we’re also not getting married.
For the full interview, check out the Love issue of Out.
(Photo, Roger Erickson; via Out Magazine)