Not all trends are good!
Here we go again...another silly trend. Things couldn't just be left with the 'swallow cotton wool to become a size zero?!' obsession, no no. Couples are now the target of the latest craze creeping across the water. Question - how would you feel about sleeping in a separate bedroom from your spouse? Sound good? Really??
Surely there is nothing a newly married couple love more than the thought of jumping under the covers on their quest to married bliss. But, what if the latest marriage advice stated that the secret to a happy future was to sleep in different beds?! 'Whatever!' Ok, maybe a silent night alone, freedom to adopt any shape possible in the comfort of a surrounding sausage roll shaped duvet is greatly appealing for those who are constantly woken by grunts, groans and mobile phones (...John from the office). But these bad habits are are sure to be compensated by cuddles.
Supposedly this new trend is to encourage couples to spend more quality time together during the day however, this would almost be impossible with the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Bedtime gives couples the opportunity to off load their troubles and spend quality time together. I mean, come on, the root of this fad probably stemmed from some dude who couldn't get any and insists, in his jealous state, that bedtime is time to be alone.
Just imagine this - Valentines Day, new dress, beautiful roses, lovely food, fine wine, home time, 'party time', bedtime...separate beds! A little exaggerated, yes, but you see my point. And this is for the good of your relationship? I know for a fact that if I had a boyfriend who left the comfort of cuddles to nod off in another room I would be RAGING! I do also know however, that maybe I would be that little bit more comfortable but there is something about waking up beside someone you care about - it's nice. So how would this separation really bring you closer together? I can only see rocketing mobile phone bills from texting each other through the walls!
Yes, of course I understand why busy mothers and business men would like some space in order to prevent everyday tensions coming between them, and I guess the longer you have been married the better this idea sounds. But, I would have thought that couples with busy routines would relish the nighttime togetherness and conversation when relaxing side by side. When I was a wee lass I often heard my parents talking and laughing through the thin wall in my room like a comforting drone. It was nice to know that my parents actually spoke to each other! I definitely would have found it confusing if mum and dad slept in different rooms when they hardly saw each other anyway.
Well, maybe you think I do not have the right to comment fairly but I do honestly think however, that if you are really deeply in love with someone, the idea of waking up beside that person is a valuable thing (you feel sick yet?) - just use separate blankets to avoid hogging! But if that all seems too perfect and you 'really' need to sleep alone: find yourself a suitable flatmate for fun!
Laura x